Friday, December 08, 2006

I am a man

I know that this is no surprise to you all. It also is no surprise to you all that men frequently make mistakes. I want to apologize to my wife for putting words into her mouth about what I assumed she felt and wanted. I made a few statements a while back as if my wife said them when the statements were merely my interpretations of her feelings. I am sorry. I also made a statement in regards to a conversation I had with my ex co wife in which I became very aroused that made people think it was more than it was and for that I am sorry again for not elaborating on the situation and bringing her character into question. I wonder if I should just delete my blog and stop.


  1. Muhammad, that you admitted your faults and made two very public apologies speaks volumes about your character as a human being, a Muslim, and a man, alhamdullilah. Square your shoulders, raise your chin, look your wife in the eyes, kiss her, and always value what you have. We all make mistakes, but it takes a real man to recognize, admit, and learn from them.

  2. I'm still stupid and I do plenty of things that require continual apologizing. I just don't think I write. So I actually think I will make another blog, maybe I'll keep it on my personal computer just so that I have the freedom to say whatever I want to say when I want to say it.

  3. HAHA! I still say you already have that blog.....

    I'm very tempted to go check out how many times you've apologized to ur wife since this P thingy started up and ended. Seems like a lot of heartache for only a couple of months and an unconsummated marriage....

  4. It seems to me that your wife's sensitve/tender feelings probably don't make her the best candidate for polygyny anyway. I have found that in polygyny there is so much oom for women to misunderstand their husband's intentions. If you had to run around apologizing for yourself all the time, it probably would wear down the wonderful relationship you seem to have.

    I guess this is a good example of why we say Allah knows best!

    Salaam Alaikum,

  5. muhamad, i think u shoudl delete this blog and start afresh. i dont like the way some of the things have come across here. sakina has a very special place in my heart and i dont like some of the stuff i read here, like when u guys had that disagreement and the name calling. too much has happened here and issues have become very clouded.

    y not take an example from sakina at least and delete the posts that cause pain and misery to your wife. its just how i feel. i know i have no business to tell u what to do n i may be over stepping the line here, but i just felt i needed to say what was on my mind. PEACE!

  6. Well thank you Queenie, PM and Safa for the advice. I will keep my blog open. Especially now that I'm going away to Bahrain. I won't put anything ultra personal in my blog or at least not my public blog. Just so that I can keep going and working through the problems we have. In the past I just blogged it was really open and really raw, but some of those things were really painful for people to hear. With my wife I can work through painful things with extended friends and such it is not so easy. Such is the problem of putting everything in your blog. So oh well. Life is learning.