Friday, March 31, 2006

I've got stats

I went to this location to get my site meter. I'll try it out and see how it works.

Wednesday, March 29, 2006

Blog traffic

How in the world can you tell how many people see your blog? On most internet places they have that stats window but not here. Maybe that's the whole feeling of anonymity to keep people as honest as possible.


Christians say that Jesus is God Almighty (I as a Muslim do not believe this at all). Well if he is such and he is all knowing and everything why don't they reflect and bring to contrast the Old testament prohibition for swine and the acts of Jesus Christ. Obviously out of all of the creatures of the earth the only thing that he saw fit to place demons in were pigs. If pigs are the only animals fit for demons and devils why would you want to eat it?

I find it just puzzling.

I love my wife.

My wife is awesome. So I broke down and told my wife about my watching Big Love and the feelings that I was having afterward. She was very cool. She didn't freak out and become all feverish. She calmly told me that she would just ask which one of us are leaving the house and where she would pick up her child support check. I of course didn't like to know that my marriage would end so abruptly, but her words gave me a deep respect for her.

We discussed the show because her close girlfriend watches it constantly and has laid on all of the details of each episode. We then shared our views on the show. We also revisit the one sister that she said that she would mind as a co-wife. She then divulges to me the true reason that the sister didn't go ahead with the union. At the time of the request we were living in a two bedroom apartment and the sister didn't want to impose or be a financial burden. My wife's contact information for her was destroyed when her phone got damaged. She likes the sister in a spiritual way and says that if circumstances present themself she may again coerce the sister to become a co-wife.

Her statements made me very proud. Now mind you I am not scouring the internet matrimonials to find any likely candidates. Nor am I having lengthy discussions with any women that I may chance upon. It is the knowledge of the possibility that puts me at ease. It is enough for me that my wife would think of the arrangement in a favorable way. I remember when she first told me that she would ask the sister. I got very nervous and wondered spiritually if I would be able to manage it. For the fantasy side of the aspect is one thing, but the reality side is something entirely different.

We then discussed what things would be acceptable and what wouldn't be acceptable, and we imagined about living arrangements and a whole assortment of things. I suppose that if the situation were to ever present itself in reality we would work it all out. My respect for my wife is now so much deeper. I really love my wife and wouldn't change her for the world. Regardless of who comes calling as a second wife.

Tuesday, March 28, 2006

Scholarly Debate

There is this rather scholarly individual on the ImDb website that advocates that not only does the Bible sanction Polygamy but within the union it is lawful for a man’s wives of the poly union to be involved in lesbianism. Now when I heard this I was like what. I completely disagree with him. The problem is that he has done so much research and the work is so volumous that who has the time to look all of that stuff up to give a rational thought out argument. He claims that lesbianism is fine as long as it is sanctioned within a polygamous relationship, where one man and multiple women are involved. On the surface his points appear sound. However I’m sure that it can be proven otherwise unless of course the Jews manipulated the texts for their own self serving purposes.

I was initially going to hastily post the Quran’s position on the whole matter but when I read the verses I saw support for his point. I will post a little excerpt from Surah 4 the women:

15. If any of your women are guilty of lewdness, Take the evidence of four (Reliable) witnesses from amongst you against them; and if they testify, confine them to houses until death do claim them, or Allah ordain for them some (other) way.
16. If two men among you are guilty of lewdness, punish them both. If they repent and amend, Leave them alone; for Allah is Oft-returning, Most Merciful.

As it is seen in the two initial verses concerning women there is the extremely hard task of bringing four witnesses that see the lewdness meaning that they are eye witnesses that actually see the sexual act taking place which is next to impossible. However if they testify they are to be confined to their houses until death or Allah make for them some other way.

In this instance if the two women were already married to the same man it would mean that they would just have to stay in the house until they passed on however if they had not yet married then they would have no prospect of marrying, in contrast to the men where they are to be punished immediately unless they repent and give up that way of life. On the surface it would seem to support the writer’s claims however this hadith puts the stamp of illegitimately of the practice.

'Abd al-Rahman, the son of Abu Sa'id al-Khudri, reported from his father: The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: "A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a woman should not lie with another woman under one covering. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Menstruation (Kitab Al-Haid), Book 003, Number 0667)"

I hope that this squashes the issue for most people. I'm sure those who wish to continue the practice will find for themselves an excuse.


Ok my wife wants to go to Yemen to study which I very much want her to do. However her girlfriend that she wants to go with is leaving early in the middle of my kids summer vacation. Now I have taken the entire month of July off in anticipation of their coming and we are supposed to do the whole theme parks and other sundry adventures however this development is going to put a snare in that whole aspect. I only get two months a year with my kids and I would hate to disappoint them. I really had big plans for this summer. So now I am faced with a dilemma do I readjust my leave to accommodate taking my wife over to Yemen for a month or do I have her call the whole thing off? There are obvious benefits for my wife and family going to Yemen. Primarily they will be exposed to instant immersion Arabic an outstanding learning model. My wife will be exposed to the scholars of Islam second. They will already be in the area when Hajj rolls around third. So those are the positives. On the negative side she will be in an environment that doesn’t allow for free mobility of women. She will be there with our 2 small children. She doesn’t know the language and an assortment of other things such as medical care and other things etcetera.

I can only pray that I am making the right decision in this. I really want her to go and become more knowledgeable of Islam however I don’t want anything bad happening to them while I am halfway around the world financially strapped and restricted by my job. I am hoping that I will be able to come to some kind of peace of mind about the issue.

She is thinking of not going. I encourage her to go though. I think that it would be an excellent opportunity. We are very stressed about it because it places a lot of plans in turmoil and we don’t even have all of the money yet. She has just started a new Job and she will have the money in a couple of weeks, but it still places all of our other plans up into the air.

Friday, March 24, 2006

Reality checks in

Well that didn't go so well. Discipline is something that is lacking or priority placement for endeavors such as spewing out 1000 words a day. It is a grand and noble idea and believe me I have a lot to say just not everyday.

Work is not the best place to endeavor this and homelife with small children makes it equally challenging. There is one tradition of the Prophet Muhammad Prayers and Peace upon him that I find especially applicable at different moments of beffuddledness in my life. "O Son of Adam tomorrow is a new day." In otherwords each moment in life is a starting point or a restarting point. A point that brings with it the knowledge of experience. If one were to take this simple prescription at dealing with life's numerous setbacks then life suddenly becomes much easier.

Another good anecdote that I heard today was "a successful life is nothing more that a succession of successful days" today is all that there is just make today successful and tomorrow will take care of itself. This is a poignant point. In keeping with the focus of ones life breaking it down into manageable hours and the importance of that. If one breaks life down for the Muslim between the prayers it would help one keep focus. A life management model of scheduling around the prayer is essential for any Muslim trying to effect change within himself.

I attended Agenda for changing our condition put on by Zaytuna institute and am currently working on completing my Salaat (Prayer called such from here on out) for forty days within its respective time. I am currently on day 5. I could probably make better use of my blog by journaling this quest. The next forty day quest will be to control my tongue. Then after that my laziness/ procrastination. A deep spiritual focus is my aim. My goal is to attain a level of commitment that will allow me to accomplish my life's goals.

Insha Allah (God willing) I can make the time to return to this page to track my progress.

I have been reading "The Lives of Man" by Imam Abdallah ibn Alawi Al Haddad and in it there is a tradition of the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhe Wa Salaam that was so beautiful I just could not stop crying. There was actually two of them. The first on reads:

Wahb ibn Muhabbih, may Allah show him His Mercy, said: 'When Moses, Upon whom be peace, read the Tablets, he found mention in them the merits of the nation of Muhammad, may blessings and peace be upon him, and he said: "O Lord! Which is this mercy-given nation that I find in the Tablets?" God Answered: "It is the nation of Ahmad, whose people are content with whatever little provision I give them, and I am content with whatever little good works they do. I make each one of them enter the Garden by his testimony that La ilaha Illa Llah (There is no deity worthy of worship except the one worthy of all worship).

'And then Moses said: "I find in the Tablets a nation of people who shall be resurrected and assembled on the Day of Rising with their faces like full moons. Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad; I shall gather them resurrected on the Day of Rising, when their foreheads and limbs shall be blazing white from the effect of their wudu (Spiritual washing in preparation for any worship duty) and their prostrations."

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people whose clothes are on their backs and whose swords are on there shoulders, people of certitude and dependence [tawakkul](Dependence upon Allah alone fearing nothing else but Him); they glorify Allah from minaret-tops, and they continue to seek to fight for every righteous cause, until they do battle against the Dajjal. Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people who pray five times each day and night, at five hours of the day, for whom the gates of Heaven are opened and upon whom mercy descends; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation for whom the [whole] earth is a place of worship and ritually pure, and for whom booty is lawful; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people who fast the month of Ramadhan for You, and whom You then forgive all they had done before; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: " O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people who go on pilgrimage to the Inviolable House for Your sake, whose longing for it is never exhausted, whose weeping is loud and tumultuous, whose talbiya is clamorous;Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "What will you give them for that?" And Allah said: "I shall grant them more forgiveness, and shall allow them to intercede for those who come after them.

'Moses said: O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people who ask forgiveness for their sins; when they raise their food to their mouths it does not reach their stomachs before they are forgiven; they start [eating ] with Your Name and end with Your praise; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation whose members will be foremost on the Day of Rising, but are the last to be created; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation whose gospels are held within their breasts and they recite them; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people among whom, when one of them intends a good deed but does not perform it, it is written as one good deed for him, while if he does perform it, it is written as ten to seven hundred times its worth; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation among whom, when one of them intends a sin but does not commit it, it is not recorded against him, while if he does commit it, it is written as a single sin; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! I find in the Tablets a nation of people who will be resurrected and brought on the Day of Rising as three groups. One group shall enter the Garden without reckoning, another's reckoning will be easy, and another will be rigorously judged, then made to enter the Garden; Let them be my nation!" But Allah replied: "They are the nation of Ahmad!"

'Moses said: "O Lord! You have spread out all this goodness for Ahmad and his nation; let me be a member of his nation!" But Allah told him: "O Moses! I have chosen and preferred you over other people with My Message and My Speech; take what I have given you, and be one of the thankful."'

When I read that I just about passed out. I will write the second one another time as my fingers are tired of typing right now.